Newborn Friends: Social Media and me

For 3 years now, I have been learning about what social media is, what actions to take, how to think strategically about using social media for my personal interests, as well as philosophizing about it’s impact on the larger cultural landscape. I’ve been comfortably lost in this strange new world into which, quite suddenly, I’d dropped. It’s been a progressive set of experiences involving a pathway filled with lots of play, experimenting and rethinking, most of which I’ve done with a good friend of mine, JessieX (as she is known in our local SocialMedia community.)

Reflection #1: It helps and it’s a heck of a lot more fun, to have a buddy to play with in this new territory.

Anyway, my interest, my skills and the realization that social media is the developing infrastructure for an emerging global culture continues to expand within me. I have recently taken on a leadership position with the Chesapeake Bay Organizational Development Network (CBODN) as a SIG (Special Interest Group) chair. It’s a geographic based SIG, focused on connecting people in the Howard County area, extending to Baltimore and Annapolis. The direction I am setting is one that is rooted in social technology and media applications.

The strategy is much like that my “buddy” and I used with American City Girls, which includes a principle of: expanding local relationships through social media. Translated that means, ultimately social media is CONVERSATION online to: communicate with each other, get know each other, and share and update each other on relevant information; while sponsoring local face to face social events- mainly coffee and cocktails at local establishments.

Why? So we can increase the opportunities to engage each other, which in turns makes it easier find our alignment to each other. If aligned, the increased engagement serves to deepen our connection. With a deep connection, we are more likely to collaborate… on something! Most networking groups I have been a part of consist of once a month meeting, structured around someone educating others, which is never consistently attended. They become sound bytes and slices of people over long spans of time. I think social media offers an attractive addition as a layering in and around what I’ve typically found in network associations.

The Balt/Wash SIG will organize around and focus on the domain of Organization Development. The SIG is open to others interested in social media as well if it seems useful to our mutual purposes. As chair of this SIG the job is to introduce members to the trappings of online conversations and create the support structures needed as they learn to navigating a new territory of interaction on their own, and , as an autonomous, dynamic and functioning (that means I expect that there will be something we can produce together) network forms.

My challenge is to lead people to a path so we, as autonomous practitioners in this domain, drive OD content through the infrastructure of social media, rather than social media content through the infrastructure of social media. Yet, to become embedded, which is where the greatest benefits are procured, I eventually realized, that a new mindset is needed to navigate this world. Thus, the content of social media is also an important aspect to the learning the process.

Reflection #2: The rules are different. You can’t take old thinking and ride it on top of this infrastructure and expect to succeed, or have fun!

The good news is there is a tremendous amount of content available about how to have a presence in the Web 2.0 landscape. You can learn this yourself. No money needed, just openness, time and motivation.

Reflection #3; It’s okay to be late to this party, it’s not one you want to miss, though.

The people to watch are the folks using social media to talk about social media. Novel idea, I know! It’s base camp one, if you will, a first stop on your way to acclimating to the environment. Connecting with the people who are using social media, creating content for it, and servicing the needs of the social media industry itself, is like hooking up with the Scarecrow, Tin Man and Cowardly Lion, along the yellow brick road to the “Emerald City“, a metaphorical city of wondrous technology and wizardry. There are even lots ‘wizards’ or “rockstars, as they are called in the community, who’ve mastered the territory. Find them and follow them. We have several here in Howard County. If you are game to come out and play, be sure to check out what the local peeps are doing near where you live. And don’t limit yourself to these folks, find a couple of people you think might be only a half step ahead of you, reach out and follow them too. After all, it’s people under all this technology that is important, not technology by itself.

Reflection #4: The people are very social in the world of social media. Lot’s of invitations to dance at this party.

Below is a slide show created by Kevin Glasier which in my opinion is a nice “lay of the land.” If you click through Kevin’s link, you’ll see from his site that he is also in the business for that which he creates content. Selling, marketing, educating and building relationship all happen at the same, through authentic expression of adding value to those whom he engages. Whether or not I ever do business with Kevin is secondary. And look, I am leveraging his content on a site that is about me. The greater good to come out of social media is not only how it benefits me, but the added capacity for peer production. For me, this is living on an edge, where the greatest amount creativity and productivity is to be found, generating the collective benefits of social media through peer production. I was fortunate to get my lessons early on in my learning curve from Alex Rollin of Peer Producers, Inc. and I am still working on effective execution.

Reflection #5: Find yourself a good guide, and open your mind about intellectual property and copyrights.

And at the end of the day, it’s really about connecting with people you are interested in. Often that might be the people you know pretty well already. Again, its deepening and expanding the relationship we have with the people that are meaningful to us in some way that social media/technology amplifies. Maybe the truth is, the only people you care about connecting with are your kids. From everything I’ve seen about our current youth tells me this environment is where you’ll find them, today and tomorrow. Knowing how to navigate this world will help you, help them, and them help you. As JessieX and I talked about yesterday:

Reflection #6: The act of judging, of applying right and wrong, includes the perspective from inside. It’s a leap into what is happening now.

I have found my entire experience, thus far, to be very worth the jump.

(By the way, notice the application that allows you to post slide shows on web!)

I am on an adventure…

I’ve been traveling and connecting with friends new and old for the past two weeks through No. California. Here’s one of the places I landed:

I am staying with two folks, Rich and Kathy, I had never met before I walked through their door. Rich noticed the license plates of the cars the three of us are driving.

Rich has only known me a two days, but he had enough of a pulse to what’s going on to comment: “Boy, are you in the right place or what!”

I have to agree. I love how the life process is supporting me these days!

Stuff Just Doesn’t WORK.

Again.

It it seems that yet, again, I am having to learn and navigate my life, my relationships and my myself, with a profound understanding that “stuff just doesn’t work.” That’s it.

No need to complain. No need to blame. No need to fix it or change anything. And particularly, no need to reject it, walk away or refuse to engage it. It just doesn’t work. So there.

Now what will I do?

In the silence, stillness and expanded awareness of my mind, a whole new world opens up before me. Amazing.

And then again… I come up against something else that doesn’t work the way I’d like it to. :-)

A Full Day in the Open Wave

In a complete surrender to the past, the now and the future; this music video is the best encapsulation of my experience, today, staying in the open wave…not letting my mind control the path, just feeling into my psychological space while not getting caught in breaking water.

The Open Wave- Moving in front the “The Edge”

Recently I spent a week in beautiful countryside of Hertenstein, Switzerland, 30 minutes around the lake from Luzern, immersed in conditions created to support the development and emergence of 6 people eager to contribute to the Spiral Dynamics Group (SDG) as potential trainers. Co-leading with Christopher Cooke, new insights were revealed and seen by me, as result of dedicated, intensive and protracted interaction with Chris while “training” others.

One of those insights relates to an “open wave.”

I’ve known Cookie, as he is often called, for about 5 years now, our paths crossing in various cities across the US and many phone conversations related to the future of SDG. Chris has used a metaphor of an open wave for several years now in speaking about the process of emergence. The nuanced thing about metaphors, is they either connect and offer meaning and guidance or they miss. The open wave has usually missed with me, that is until last month. The context of this training, from Chris’ point of view is act as if we operate from second tier, which intrinsically means beyond yellow into the space of turquoise. Co-leading for the last 3 years with Don, the premise focus tends to emphasize yellow, leaving turquoise to the imagination and co-opting of first tier minds. My 10-day interaction served as an entre to dipping, full bodied, open hearted and mind twisting into a sequence of state experiences more closely aligned with turquoise than I have recognized before, leaving behind a flow that I have been surfing in ever since.

Here’s a cool video to bring the imagery and experience of surfing to this post.

As I watch in video form; what it’s like to surf a wave, I notice that, metaphorically, for the entire time I have been surfing at all (I’ll admit..much of my life has been spent on the beach…maybe even to the parking lot…not venturing into the water all) I have been inside the breaking water. Lately, and you can read several posts on my blog, here, I have written about being more in the break, where it is messy and hurts and I spill all over everything. Manly, however, I’ve gotten very good at breaking through the barriers, finding the open wave just long enough to return to the pipe waiting for the next break to appear in front of me, then working on the breaking though to the open again.

The biggest impact of revisiting the open wave metaphor, for me, was in the realization that it was time move out in front of the “breaking”, into the wide open space where the boundaries, instead of always being in front of me, shift behind me. In fact, the entire world of boundaries closes off behind me when I stay in the open wave.

Gulp!

Yet, notice that in surfing, no boundaries doesn’t mean chaotic, directionless abandon. In the open wave, as a surfer I am held in place by the momentum of the movement of the wave in combination with the competencies of practiced surfer. Controlled freedom in awareness of my surrounding conditions. AND I notice, in this place “the pulse” of the prime directive, or the pulse of evolution keeps me grounded, aligned and totally connected.

I think I might have the “hang” of the open wave. Ooops, there I go again, back in the break. Oh, well. It’s a good thing my capacity for resilience is active and strong. Getting up and out in front of the wave again is becoming easier too.

One Big Burst of JOY

Special thanks and a huge hug to my friend Jim Fritz for sending more of his love to me in the form of this video!

Time and Money

I came across this note in my files the other day. I held on to it because I find it a fascinating way to think about numbers, large abstract numbers. Check it out.

If I spent $1 every second it would take:

11.5 days to spend a million dollars

31.7 years to spend a billion dollars

317 years to spend 10 billion dollars

3170 years to spend 100 billion dollars

and, 6230 years to spend 200 billion dollars…that’s before the pyramids appeared on earth.

Ummm…the cost of the Iraq War is estimated in the trillions. With that large of a number, conceptual years doesn’t even help me. I just have no way to conceptualize “a trillion” of anything.

Oh! The power of even a badly told story

Storytelling has been on my radar screen for a while now. I realize how important stories are for communication, relationships, and for leadership, yet there was never enough “ummph” for me to spend time and money investing in the topic.

Two things happened last month. I read several informative and thought-leading articles by Dr. Kim Boal, professor of Business Management at Texas Tech University. It is Dr. Boal’s very informed opinion that there are two key functions associated with leading complex organizations; storytelling and tagging.

The second thing that happened is I was invited to attend a Smithsonian workshop on storytelling. That was easy. One quick metro ride is way better than reading and research so I agreed to participate in the two-hour introduction to storytelling as taught by Steve Denning.

Here is the quick and dirty on storytelling:

Svend-Erik Engh, Mr. Denning’s invited guest lecturer took the first hour to remind us that we all know how to stories, AND that telling a story is much more engaging, even it’s a bad story, then analytical detail about a subject. Really. Here’s his quick example: With a listener, answer these questions:

  1. What is storytelling?
  2. What is an organization?
  3. What happened this morning?

If you take the time to go through this exercise and then ask the listener to give you feedback on what they heard, hands down- telling about what happened was easier to remember and had a bigger impact. And here is the big point; I listened to a badly told story, and told one as well. The bad story, for connecting and communicating with another was way more powerful than the brilliant cognitive approach I prefer to use.

So, the basic on storytelling is it works and we all know how to do it. If you forget, go ask a 4 year old, they can teach you. (I’ll spare the revert to Spiral Dynamics as to why it works: hint: purple code!)

Then Mr. Denning took over the workshop. The bottom line on the next hour of instruction: Telling a story concisely, that fits the environment, and that has the impact you intend…well now, that takes a lot more work, thinking and practice. Ah! So my cognitive skills do come in handy.

But hey, it’s a start. And worth the metro ride and two hours spent at the Smithsonian. :-)

Give them what they need, not what you want to give them.

I love TIVO. TV watching is so much better now that I have choice about when and what I watch. Combined with hundreds of channels, programming is plentiful. What I especially like is the ability to record entire seasons of a show and watch a series in its lifespan over several months. I did this with CSI. I didn’t start watching CSI until its sixth season, then I watched (courtesy of SPIKE TV) all six seasons in about 3 months.

I’ve had a similar experience over the past couple of months with America’s Next Top Model (ANTM), Tyra Banks’ popular show that takes a handful of aspiring models and puts them through developmental pathway designed to call forth the Top Model in them. I use those words because it’s not just about teaching modeling, rather about “becoming” a model. Given the contextual frame I live in, I find ANTM to be an interesting education process for me personally; translating the experiences on the show to my own developmental desire; to bring forth to the surface, through behavior, the inner world, not of beauty per se, but radiant, vibrant life found in the fullness of human expression that makes even awkward girls beautiful.

I have an interest in developmental pathways, anyway. So in watching this show, I look for the design elements and the conditions that seem to work toward this end. There is a mixture of vmemetic conditions, content and context used in the ANTM design, seemingly built on top of strong base of Orange conditions. The ANTM pathway, does seem to require a descent amount of Orange code in its contestants. At it’s core, if one has the Orange code operating in them, they are aware and demonstrate a capacity to change…a worldview that includes an understanding that individuals can change things in this world, themselves, primary above anything else. On this show, over the 12 week cycle, there is ample opportunity to develop and change as Top Model qualities are exercised, critiqued and nurtured.

This excerpt I find fascinating. From the developmental lens I look through, with the limited exposure to the reality I have through the TV editing and showing, it looks like a classic case of too much complexity relative a persons ability to handle it. It’s like demanding that someone use algebra to solve a problem when the haven’t gotten past multiplication and division yet.

This scene is really more about Tyra than the contestant. From Tyra’s perspective, she has offered these girls a chance in lifetime, with an abundant environment of resources and support for them to achieve their supposed dream. When this opportunity is disrespected, Trya drops into Red like a bomb (with the archetypal Gen-Xer battle cry “take responsibility for yourself”) Exactly where her contestant is stuck, powerlessness to change. Tiffany, the contestant, doesn’t seem to have the self knowledge nor the thinking to know how to change herself because it comes with the Orange code. It doesn’t matter how much yelling you do, particularly from on high, nor how good the anger management program is, it won’t produce the orange code. In fact, I’d bet from this encounter Tyra’s rant more than likely embedded Tiffany in her powerlessness as the result of this very public shaming.

The answer? I don’t know, that’s why I watch shows like this!

For more insight into the color codes used in this post, click then read here.

The Spiral is Everywhere

In this Harvard Business Review article, the authors of Marketing Metaphoria: What Deep Metaphors Reveal about the Minds of Consumers get close to the closer to the codes of the Spiral, without knowing about them.

MIT press has also just published paper The Designer’s Role in Facilitating Sustainable Solutions. This article explicitly applies Spiral Dynamics as a critical element in solving our current problems.

The momentum is building.