Putting a Finger on the Pulse of Pleasure

There are very few people I’ve met in the 40 odd years I’ve been on this planet with whom I share such a profound and significant alignment of purpose and premise.  Nicole Daedone is one of those people.

I, in person, have not spent much time with Nicole.  I am not a working member of her community, yet my path in the last three years has crossed hers many times.  I watch how she is orchestrating her passion with respect and with eyes of learning, taking a very edgy topic and creating a comfort zone in which this edge can be talked about, explored, practiced, and this week – amplified with a collective voice that I hope gets heard around the world.

Nicole and I meet one another because we both understand women’s awesome power to connect, grow and ultimately create through the one of the least understood and least activated access points, the orgasm. I join now,  following Nicole out onto this cultural edge to ready to play full-out. In doing so, I call myself  into the best part about being a woman- into our deepest desires.

After years of teaching, coaching and researching, topped off by 58 consecutive days of upbeat video tips, Nicole’s first book, Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm is premiering this week to a medley of mainstream interest and interviews.  I mean really, is there another topic we want to know more about than this one. Or as a partner we would like to master more than this one.  Is there one person male or female, if they are being totally honest with themselves, who wouldn’t welcome having a candid, informed and enlightened conversation about the mysteries of the female orgasm?  And don’t we have some sense deep down inside that somehow all of our lives, yes all, could be off the charts satisfying if women having orgasms was the rule rather than the exception.  Is there even one woman out there, who will tell you she having too many orgasms?   Mmmmm.

The time is here, the platform has been built, the support system created and the premiere party planned so that from here on the female orgasm can take its place, center stage, in what I sense could be the beginnings of the next sexual revolution. No joke!  I intend to stand right next to Nicole as she carves out a path for women everywhere to stroke their way into personal power; with or without a man, with or without a job, with or without a degree.

My own experience comes through a 15 year personal practice of intentional masturbation that has been one of the core pillars of a cultivated lifestyle designed to support my development into a emerging mindset that up until now, I’ve shared with only a handful of my friends. It’s through the art and craft of orgasmic meditation (as Nicole calls her practices) fostered over that time that I have come to believe, there is no problem I encounter that 5 orgasms can’t solve.  I mean 5 orgasms, in one sitting, sometimes more, a lot more.

Over the coming months, I will be blogging about my point of view on the subject of sex.  Today I celebrate and acknowledge Nicole who has, through trials, tribulations and triumphs found a way to open up a conversation about sex through a safe and intelligent framing, Turned-On Women, that enables us to view our lives through the context of slowing down.  Slowing down so we can truly connect with ourselves and each other, in order to give and receive attention to the richness found in this most basic of human experience.  My hope is that the ensuing conversations will spark a new narrative about what it means to be sexual woman and a sexual man; fueling nothing less than an evolutionary jump into our future.

One thing “I know for sure”, Nicole is not afraid to put her finger on the pulse, specifically in the upper left quadrant of the inner labia, inviting the heat of real cultural change, to tell us in plain and clear terms, what is going on.